Adoption - A Loving Option
When I first found out I was pregnant, I started laughing uncontrollably. I was at Pregnancy Resources sitting with a volunteer and was laughing, how could I possibly be pregnant? I was a good girl who went to church my whole life, I knew right from wrong so how did I end up here? It didn’t feel real until I went for my ultrasound to see the peanut already growing in my uterus. When I saw her on the screen at Pregnancy Resources, I was shocked. I was expecting the ultrasound tech to tell me it was a mistake, but as the little blip on the monitor proved me wrong, I knew I had to make some tough decisions soon.When I told my parents they were less than thrilled. I understood my mother’s concerns because I knew I couldn’t raise a child either.Since the father was completely out of the picture, I knew I would be me on my own. I was nineteen years old and was completely overwhelmed. A baby means my life would come to a sudden halt, if I wanted to try to give her the life I wanted to give her.
My friends were supportive. One of my best friends went away for college that year, so for Thanksgiving in 2012, I went down to SIU to visit some of my closest friends. When I went down to visit Josie, we went to the mall and, me being 6 and half months pregnant, I wanted food, so we made our way down to the food court. When I was just about to bite into my juicy cheeseburger (the only craving I had when I was pregnant) when I looked over and saw a family of four sitting in a row. There was the mother, then a little boy, the father and then a three year old girl with a really big bow on top of her head. I started to watch the interaction of the father and daughter and my heart started to break. My baby wouldn’t have that relationship with her father the way she should.
A father and daughter’s relationship is really important and special- my baby girl should be able to have that. Watching that interaction is what helped me realize that I wanted to place my child for adoption.
After the trip, I went to talk to my old youth pastor and his wife- Jon and Andrea always had a special place in my heart. They told me that they knew someone who was looking to adopt and asked if I was interested in taking a look at their Facebook page. I creeped on Justin's profile and I saw he was a youth pastor and played drums, I creeped on his wife’s page and saw she worked at a big camp up in Michigan.
I started talking to Justin and Terase and decided that I wanted to go and visit their home to get a feel of what their life is like. In Michigan, I fell in love with the town they lived in, and their church and their friends. I knew without a doubt that this is the family my baby was supposed to have.
When Adi finally arrived in the world I had to sign papers three days later, according to Illinois law, and I thought it was going to be the worst day in my entire life. Signing my rights away for this precious baby actually turned out to be one of the happiest days. Justin and Terase were there and I got to spend the whole day with them celebrating the fact that Adi was going to have the best life, and Justin and Terase were going to be amazing parents. I was so happy that day. I knew that God gave me blissful joy as he did throughout this entire process.
Even though there were tough times, God gave me peace throughout my entire pregnancy and guided me to Justin and Terase.
I still see Justin, Terase, and Adi from time to time, but since they live eight hours away it’s only a couple of times a year. I am so thankful that Pregnancy Resources was able to help me in my rough start. When the counselor prayed for me, I believe that prayer helped me start this incredible, rough, amazing journey of joy.
Posted on Wed, July 23, 2014
by qcpregnancypartners admin